I feel like I’ve been waiting for this article my whole life.
I can’t count the number of times I’ve been told by friends and strangers (not to mention ALL THE MEDIA) that casual sex is detrimental to my well being and / or psychologically damaging. That something must be wrong with me for wanting to hook up and never see the person I hooked up with again. That I have a lot of “emotional growth” to do because most of the time, I prefer casual sex over the idea of engaging in an ongoing relationship. When someone says to me, “You know, I guess that’s fine for you, but gosh, I could just never do it,” it feels like shaming.
So thank you, Zhana Vrangalova. You just made my year. Dr. Zhana also did a great podcast with Sex Nerd Sandra about casual sex recently – give it a listen!