I love butt stuff. Plugs, fingers, vibrating plugs, rimming, beads, plugs of various shapes and sizes, pegging, and – have I mentioned plugs? I love them. That said – anal sex isn’t really my thing.
Having a partner slide a finger into my ass while licking my puss? Definitely my thing, and my clitoral orgasms are so much more intense when combined with anal stimulation. I often incorporate beads and plugs when I wank, especially to tip me over the edge. Riding a partner’s dick with a vibrating butt plug in so he can feel the vibrations through my vaginal wall? Absofuckinglutely. I often fantasize about double penetration – sitting on a dick reverse cowgirl style and lying back on that gent while having another fuck me missionary style while other people watch. Giving languid analingus at the end of a long body massage makes me drip, and putting on a strap-on, making it goopy and slick with lube, and sliding it into a wriggling ass that can’t wait to be penetrated, only to hear a deep groan of satisfaction, makes my heart pound. PIA, though? That I could take or leave.
Then again – maybe I just haven’t given it a fair shot. The first time I tried anal was in uni; we lubed up, used fingers first as a warm up, and… it was good. Not great, but good. The second time we tried I really got into it. Then one night my boyfriend was pounding me hard from behind and his dick accidentally slipped into my ass (yes, this really does happen); it hurt so bad that I didn’t want to try anal with him again. I tried with another partner a year later, and then didn’t do it again until a decade later when I started dating The Texan, and then only once. I think that part of it is that I’ve gone on dates and had one-night stands with a lot of men who want to fuck me in the ass, but would never in a million years allow themselves to be pegged – and that just doesn’t sit right with me. If someone expects me to take their cock in my rectum but won’t even try a finger in theirs to see what it feels like, they’re probably out the door.
Anal sex is not a casual sex activity for me. It’s something I’ve only ever wanted to do in relationships in which I feel I can really trust my partner to pull back, slow down, or stop if I feel uncomfortable – so maybe now is a good time to give it another try. A noble goal for 2018. The Engineer and I are keen (but he also has quite a sizable cock, which makes me a bit nervous), and it’s something we talk about doing often; I’ll make working up to it a goal for our next visit. “Let’s go home so you can put it in my butt” would probably make a welcome airport greeting, don’t you think?